Being a helping hand…

A few days back I went to see my grandmother on her birthday. There were other close relatives who had come to wish her on her birthday and spend time with her. One such uncle who had come there is bit old and unhealthy. He has asthmatic trouble. As soon as he walks few steps, he gets extremely tired and struggles to get his breath back.

On that particular day, after the birthday lunch was over, we were leaving to go back home. So this uncle asked us to drop him midway at a particular point from where he needed to buy some medicines. When we reached the point, it started raining a bit heavily. As he was getting out of the car, the guy who was driving our car got out with an umbrella and held it out for my uncle. After that he went with my uncle to the medical shop. He helped uncle climb the steps and go to the shop. He was further going to help uncle get into an auto to go home when he noticed I was going along with my uncle. The moment he saw me, he asked whether I was going with my uncle. When I said yes, he said then it’s fine I will get back into the car and go with your parents for the work they need to do. After this he drove away with my parents and I went with my uncle.

Nobody asked this guy, who was driving our car, to take care of my uncle. He did it out of his own heart. I felt it is an act of goodness and decided to mention it here. So many small incidents occur every moment and they give so many big lessons.

Being a helping hand to others makes us feel really good. One small help each day is definitely going to make a difference in the life of many people.


Honest self-assessment learnt…

It has been a while since I last wrote. Every now and then when I see good incidents I try to memorize them so that I can write about them here. But I have felt that generally whenever I notice some good action done, it automatically gets registered in my mind.

One such incident happened a couple of weeks back. It was time to clear the grasses and weeds and fertilise the trees and plants. So three to four workers came to work in our field. These people have been working with us since last many years. But every season when they come for work, their rates increase based on the market price of labour.

They generally use cow dung and some other plants to fertilise the trees and plants. On this particular day the cow dung was brought in a tempo from a nearby place. But when the tempo entered the field through the gate, its tyres got stuck in deep mud. These workers helped the tempo come out of the mud.  All this took them a lot of time which resulted in prolonged working hours.

So we decided to pay them extra on top of their labour charges. So three people were paid an extra of 100 Rs. per person and the main guy was paid  and extra of Rs.200. But the moment we gave him the 200, he returned Rs.100 back. He said the extra money of Rs.100 is sufficient for the work I have done.

At that moment I felt this is an act of goodness which needs to be mentioned here.  It is not just about the money he returned but also about the honest self-assessment he did.  He took exactly what he felt he deserved. He could have taken the whole of it but he didn’t do that.

I learnt the lesson of honest self-assessment from him that day. If we all could be so honest while assessing ourselves, wouldn’t it make matters easy for the society as a whole??? Honest self-assessments will lead to clear knowledge about where we stand in our area of work or life and accordingly we will have realistic expectations from our employers, family, society etc..


A very happy friendships day to all my friends….

Today being a day of friends, I want to talk about two of my very special friends who went out of their way to help me and showed me what good friendships are…

Few years back, while studying for my course I had to take some coaching. This coaching was in another city and I wasn’t sure about going there on my own and taking it up. My friend, Nandita, who used to stay in that city, was in an advanced level of the same course. She encouraged me to go there and join the coaching. I stayed at her place and for a week or so she would take me to my classes, bring me back and then later during the day she would accompany me to look for a hostel for me to stay. She spent a lot of her study time helping me out. Finally we found a good place for me to stay. During my entire period of stay in that city she made sure I didn’t have any problems. Such an act of goodness still fills  my heart with love and gratitude for her and every other friend I have in my life.

During this same period of stay, I met a girl,  Sneha at the coaching centre and got to know that she stayed next to my place. On day one itself we became friends. She helped me in every possible way during that period either with her notes or her support or  her friendship. That was the first time I stayed away from my family and Sneha made sure I was comfortable. She introduced me to her friends there and in a short span I got to know few girls there. Helping somebody is an act of goodness but being a friend and a support to a stranger is definitely an act of goodness. What if each one of us gives this kind of friendship and support to somebody new in our class or office or family???  When somebody is new in a class, office or a family, they are nervous about how it is going to work out. Just imagine if we extend our support and friendship to them, how easy and  beautiful their life can turn out to be…

There have been many incidents in my life where all my friends have given me their love, support and friendship. I feel truly blessed to have them in my life. So here I thank all my friends for being a part of my life. It feels wonderful to have great friends in life

Reading about APJ Abdul Kalam….

Since last few days, I have been reading about this great person – his life experiences, his teachings, his thoughts, his greatness….. the list just goes on…

When I was reading an article written by Srijan Pal Singh about his last day with Mr. Kalam, I read one incident which really really touched my heart. I am copying the paragraph  here below:

“Third, was an experience from the beauty of his humility. We were in a convoy of 6-7 cars. Dr. Kalam and I were in the second car. Ahead us was an open gypsy with three soldiers in it. Two of them were sitting on either side and one lean guy was standing atop, holding his gun. One hour into the road journey, Dr. Kalam said, “Why is he standing? He will get tired. This is like punishment. Can you ask a wireless message to given that he may sit?” I had to convince him, he has been probably instructed to keep standing for better security. He did not relent. We tried radio messaging, that did not work. For the next 1.5 hours of the journey, he reminded me thrice to see if I can hand signal him to sit down. Finally, realizing there is little we can do – he told me, “I want to meet him and thank him”. Later, when we landed in IIM Shillong, I went inquiring through security people and got hold of the standing guy. I took him inside and Dr. Kalam greeted him. He shook his hand, said thank you buddy. “Are you tired? Would you like something to eat? I am sorry you had to stand so long because of me”. The young lean guard, draped in black cloth, was surprised at the treatment. He lost words, just said, “Sir, aapke liye to 6 ghante bhi khade rahenge”.

Mr. Kalam felt for the security guard and since he couldn’t do much about the situation he felt that the least he could do was thank the person. Wow!!! A small act of goodness…. But when it comes from such a great person, it adds so much value to it…. Yes, any act of goodness whether big or small, is of great value. But when such good acts are done by such big people, they are watched and learned by many people.

I am mentioning only one good act of his here as an example of how in their own way, big people also do their acts of goodness. For me this is a very big encouragement to try to do good things in life. And I am mentioning it here so that when you read even one good act, you feel good and motivated to do good things as well.

I pray for Mr. Kalam through this small write-up. May his soul rest in peace!!!

And yes, thanks a lot to Srijan Pal Singh for sharing this incident with us.

The paragraph in italics is taken from the following link.