“Everything ok?” he asked

We all live a very busy life. We are busy with our career, family, friends, businesses or we are stressed about our finances, health etc… Because of this, most of the time we tend to ignore the people we meet in our daily lives like a taxi guy or a newspaper guy or even some old friends or colleagues or say even a person sitting next to us in a bus or a train and the list is endless. We may take their services, or we may have spent time with them in past or we may make a whole journey together but still we may never have a conversation with them. It’s not because we don’t want to have a casual conversation with them, it’s just that our minds are pre-occupied with many thoughts, about our lives. So every now and then, when somebody asks us a simple question like ‘how are you doing?’ we feel good.

One such incident happened with us some time back. We had an appointment with our doctor one evening. So we got down our building and walked down the street to get a taxi. Soon we found one and got into it. We told the driver the name of the hospital and started putting our seat belts. Just as the driver started the car, he asked “Everything ok Sir?” We both looked at each other and told him everything was ok.  His question and concern floored us completely. We were complete strangers to him but still he didn’t forget his compassion. We both were touched by this simple question asked by him.

Many a times we go about living our lives in such a mechanical way that we don’t see the pain or trouble the other person is going through in his life. We meet so many people in a day but we hardly have the time to ask them how they are doing or how things are going on for them. We may ask our family or friends but not some random person we come across.

This one simple question snapped us out of our mechanical ways of doing things and made us more human. He could have said a routine hello and taken us to the hospital but he went one step ahead when he heard that we were going to the hospital. There was no selfish motive behind this because he hardly had any benefit by asking us the question.

I felt good hearing the concern because it once again proved that humanity exists. He asked us this question out of choice not as a part of his job. This may be a small gesture but it is a powerful lesson because one such instance is enough to make somebody a better person. So for me it is an act of goodness on the part of the taxi guy. This is one small example I bring to your notice so that the next time something similar happens to you, you notice it, feel good about it and become a bit more compassionate.


Thirsty dog

Hello friends,

It is summer time in this part of the world. Hot bright sun makes our day longer than usual. It is also a month of Ramadan here and so for those fasting, these are real long summer days.

Few days back I attended a  wedding of one of my husband’s cousins. It was a destination wedding – a first time experience for me. The functions were spread over a period of two days. The wedding was at a resort near a beach. We were very excited about the whole wedding idea.

As soon as we reached there, we realised that it was not going to be easy because it was really hot and with the rains expected to arrive any moment, it was all the more humid. Soon the functions started. We were in a trance like situation – waking up, having breakfast, getting dressed for the function, meeting people, dancing, food again… this circle just went on for two days. Some functions were in an  auditorium while most of them were outdoors.

On the day of the wedding, the venue was outside in the open. The sun was really strong. We couldn’t just bear the heat. We were very happy for the young couple getting married but we couldn’t ignore the heat. Everybody was going around looking for a shade and some cold water.

Just like everybody looking for water, a dog was also looking around searching for a shade and some water. This dog belonged to the cousin, who was getting married. The otherwise excited dog was restlessly looking for water.  But this is something that nobody noticed.  We were all so busy managing ourselves, talking about the heat and looking at the wedding that we just didn’t notice  the dog.

After sometime, we noticed one elderly lady taking water in her hand from a bottle and placing it at the mouth of the dog who lapped up the water each time she gave. It was a sight worth seeing. I was busy talking to somebody when I noticed the lady giving the water to the dog with her hand, splashing water on the head and body of the dog to cool it down and talking lovingly to the dog.

I was so touched seeing this gesture that I definitely wanted to write about it here. I can still not forget the way she gave water and the dog lapped it up. It is an act of goodness on the part of that lady, who forgetting her own difficulties, took care of the dog.  To understand and talk about our own problems is one thing, but to understand what the other is going through and that too, somebody who cannot talk is a whole another story. Incidents like these make me more human and teach me to care for others.

In a world, where everybody is concerned about the self, such good acts make us care for and do something good for someone.

In loving memory…

I began this blog a year back to write about the small acts of goodness, done by people around me, which have been an inspiration for me to do something good  as well. Every time I write a post of a good act, I feel positive and happy about it. If just by writing about the good acts done by people I feel so happy then actually doing such good things will definitely make me more happier.

Till today, I wrote about all the good acts done by people around me. Today I want to write about an uncle of mine who was an epitome of goodness. I lost him couple of months back to heart attack. When he is no more with us now, we realise the void he has created. This void is not just for the family, he has created a similar void in the life of every person he ever knew.

Every person who came to meet us during those days just had good things to talk about him. He had affected the life of everyone with either some acts of goodness or with his sweet behaviour or with his loving and caring nature.  He behaved in the same way with every person – be it his family, his friends, people working for him or even perfect strangers. He was consistently good with everyone. He was a strength for all the people who ever knew him. A very disciplined person, who had a strong faith in God, he always told us that for any problem in life, just pray to God and you will get the strength to solve it.

When I think about all the good actions done by my uncle, to which I have been a witness, I feel he is the best reference book for goodness for me. He has left behind a great legacy for us, his family and others.  I miss him a lot, but I know he will always be with us, in our hearts.

There is a famous quote, by Ralph Waldo Emerson, which I have always read and admired. It is exactly what happened when my uncle left us all.

“When you were born you were crying and everyone else was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone else is crying.”