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 Hello friends,

Hope all of you are doing really good. After a long time, I am back with another act of goodness, which I experienced last week.

These days the weather is very good in this part of the world. The winter is mild and enjoyable. If the weather is this good, we usually prefer walking than hiring a taxi.

On Friday, as usual we decided to walk to the super-market. But as we stepped out of our building, we realised, that the weather had turned extremely cold and windy. So not risking our health, we decided to take a taxi. The whole town seemed to be affected by the weather that day. The road was full of traffic. It took us many minutes to cross each signal. We were enjoying the comfort of a warm car and beautiful songs, which were being played on the radio.

At a particular signal, while waiting for the signal to turn green we saw a guy cleaning the road sides and footpath. He was wearing a uniform which meant he was on duty. In that cold weather, watching him clean up the road left us shivering. Just then, just before the signal turned green, our taxi driver gave the guy some money for the work done by him. We were really  surprised by this act of our driver.

Instantly, my husband said  – He had such a noble thought of giving, that itself is a very good thing.

I was really blown away by the generosity of our driver. The money may be small, but the intention was good. And if the intention is good, the money will be useful too. The drivers in this part of the world don’t make much money. They, infact, struggle to reach their target sales each month. But still, this driver had the intention to help out which is an act of goodness.

I am happy to be able to learn something wonderful that day. The intention of giving itself, makes one, a great person at heart. I thank the driver for teaching us something wonderful that cold February evening.

P.s. Picture is taken from http://www.clipartfest.com 

 

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Appreciating small good acts…

It’s been a long time since I last posted anything here. Hope you all have been doing good.

The other day  when we went to a restaurant along with some of our guests, the waiter brought us our bottles of mineral water. He asked us if we wanted it to be served to which we replied that we would do it ourselves. Once the waiter was gone, my husband opened the bottle and started filling in all the glasses around the table.

This is one quality that I have always noticed in him. Whenever we go to a restaurant, as soon as the waiter leaves the bottle at our table, my husband will take the bottle and fill both our glasses. This act of serving water is done by him even when he is invited as guest elsewhere by  which I mean to say that he does it entirely out of his habit not because he is the host. This act of serving is not just limited to water but also to other dishes at times.

And every time I notice him doing this, I decide that I am going to write about it here because for me it is an act of goodness which I learnt from him. Again the fact that not being shy to do these things in front of guests is another good thing that I have observed in him. This makes him a real sensitive person – one who is not worried about what anybody else will think. It is his way of taking caring of the people with him.

I know you may be wondering why I am writing about such silly things here praising my husband. Well as I always say whenever I notice small acts of goodness around me, I make it a point to write about it here for all of us to get inspired to do such good acts and if we are in the habit of doing such good acts, then we appreciate ourselves for the same. Many a times we spend our entire lifetime appreciating others but forgetting to appreciate all the good things that we ourselves have done in the entire lifespan…

Lots of love to you all!!!

Rashmi

Celebrations full of love and warmth

A couple of days back we had a birthday party to attend. The birthday boy had just turned 50 and so the family decided to give him a surprise party to celebrate the 50 years and to welcome the next 50 years of his life. They invited all the people, connected to him in one way or the other. Likewise, even we were invited.

We reached the venue around the said time and as we stood at the entrance, we noticed that few people had already arrived. As soon as we entered the party hall, the whole family – the birthday boy, his wife and both kids came over and gave us a warm hug. They welcomed us to the party. I had never met them before. But not for once I felt as if I was meeting them for the first time. They gave me a warm hug and welcomed me into the family. It was a very touching gesture for me.

After we both settled down with a glass of juice, my husband got busy talking to few people he knew. I, on the other hand, didn’t know anybody there and so I kept looking around the party hall. I noticed that every time a guest came through the entrance, the whole family went to the door to welcome them with a hug. I could feel the warmth and love they gave each and every guest. I also noticed that all the guests who came to the party were emotionally connected to the family in some way or the other. There were old photos being shown of the birthday boy with his friends, songs being sung, birthday wishes being sent from across the world by friends and family etc. One thing was sure that people loved being in their company. Throughout the party, they made sure to interact with each and every guest and made them feel special.

I very soon realised that the love and warmth they generated and the way they made every person feel special throughout the party is an act of goodness. This kind of affection relieves people from any kind of stress and tension they have. It gives them the courage to face the problems because they know they have people who care about them. We think that love and warmth are simple things but they are very powerful. They make people feel loved and cared and people love being loved and cared.

A party turning out to be a family affair, where everyone is connecting with each other with so much positivity is a very rare sight. So the moment I saw one such party, I decided to write about it here. I loved being a part of such a party.

Magical increase in Platelet Count

Another wonderful article from my friend. This article really moved me… how a guy sought help from Gargi for the healthy recovery of his friend and how Gargi as usual prayed with a pure heart for his recovery. Both of them prayed here for the recovery of a third person, a friend. And their prayers along with the prayers of family worked.
And for me this is an act of goodness. A wonderful act. It is done out of pure love and concern by them. Thank you for writing this experience here. I am sure this will motivate many people to pray for their loved ones’ as well as others’ well-being.

Live your dreams

On 18th January 2016, I received an email from one of my readers seeking help for his friend who was hospitalized and was critical.  Here is an extract from the email:

“Hi Gargi,

My friend has been hospitalized since last Saturday 9th Jan 2016 because of Low Blood Platelet count. He is physically completely normal with no signs or symptoms of any disease. But, his Platelets are not increasing and it has been almost 10 days now. Doctor in the hospital also seems to be clueless. We are going for a second opinion tomorrow, but we are really really worried.
I have been reading your blogs and you have used the Universe powers to heal your near and dear ones.  Would you be able to help me and my friend? Can you try the power of universe to heal my dear Friend. I am looking every possible way to get…

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Being sensitive…

Wishing everybody a very happy new year…  I am sure you all welcomed year 2016 with a great new year party . I had a good time with my family as well… I am sure that this year  I am going to see and experience many small good acts, done by people in the normal course of their lives. I am not saying that any act of goodness is small… what I mean to say is that they are acts which are done, without putting in much efforts, in the normal course of life. But these acts are valuable to people who experience and benefit from these acts.

Few days back while making a 2 hour bus travel I had a chance to experience one such act of goodness done by a fellow passenger. I was a bit unwell during that trip. Somewhere in the middle of the journey, I started coughing. It just wouldn’t stop. It went on continously for few minutes. In the hurry to get into the bus, we  had forgotten to buy a bottle of water that day.  And this being an inter city bus, it wouldn’t stop anywhere. I was trying hard to stop coughing because I knew it was such a nuisance for my fellow passengers. All of a sudden, a lady sitting in front of me offered me a bottle of water.  I thanked her for the same but didn’t take the water as my cough  almost subsided by that time. It was such a good act on her part. If my coughing wouldn’t have stopped, that bottle of water would have been a blessing for me. From that moment I kept thinking about her being so sensitive  to my suffering and offering her help.  This is definitely an act of goodness, the true value of which only a person in need would know… 🙂

This is one act of goodness which I have seen people most commonly do everywhere. They are always ready with water and food to help people in need – be it a bottle of water or a packet of biscuits.  This sort of sharing and caring is one of the best qualities of our human community.

Maintaining relationships…

Another weekend just got over. Few days back we went for a walk in the evening. The weather was good and we were talking casually and enjoying our walk.  All of a sudden my husband asked me when one of our family friends was leaving for India. I wasn’t very sure about the date but I said somewhere around the 9th.  He had some other date in mind and so he got confused. When he took out his phone to call them up, I said there is no point in calling them as they must have already left. He still went ahead with the call and guess what…. they hadn’t left.  Not only had they not left on the 9th but they also had had some emergencies in their family… and all of this in a gap of one month since we last met. They were happy to get his call and talk to him. It made his relationship with them even stronger because they knew he cared about them. And what did it take to make them happy and to strengthen the relationship??? ….an intention to call them up and a phone call which took around 10 mins!  I feel ‘making this phone call’ was a simple act of goodness done by him.

I have noticed that my husband has this habit of keeping in touch with most of the people he knows. He may call them for few minutes and talk, but I think this is enough to build good relationships. He keeps in touch with them on a regular basis. And when does he do all this??? When walking down the road to some shop, while waiting for a meeting, while waiting for the food to arrive at a restaurant… So he doesn’t need to make an effort to create time to call people. He makes use of the time he spends waiting.

By keeping in touch with people, we are nurturing our relationship with them. Being in touch, sharing joys and sorrows and building emotional bonds will pave way to build healthier relationships among people thereby creating a very friendly society. Taking the effort to keep in touch with people is definitely an act of goodness which creates good, healthy relationships.

Giving flowers

A couple of months back, during our trip to Thailand, we went for a dance show which showed the cultural heritage of Thailand.   After walking around the whole area, we were going to our seat for the show. Our seats were third and fourth in a row. In the first and second seat sat an old English couple. Just as we were sitting down they gave us a smile and continued looking at the stage.

The dance show started.  It was a beautiful show filled with love, dance, music and colors.  They were enacting a love story of a Prince.  During the show they threw flowers from top on all the guests. Going with the flow of the atmosphere, we also stood up to catch the flowers.  Both of us got one each extra which we gave to the old man sitting next to us. He gave one to his wife and took one for him.  He was so happy to get the flowers from us that he kept thanking us. We could see him smiling from ear to ear.  Later his wife also thanked us by putting her hand to her chest…  We felt really happy seeing their happiness more than getting the flowers ourselves. Making somebody happy is definitely an act of goodness which leaves you with a happy feeling as well. We didn’t give the flowers to them with the purpose of making them happy nor we knew this small act would make them so happy.  All this happened unintentionally but it made everyone happy.  This made me think about the number of times we, unintentionally, do good acts and never notice the feeling of happiness it gives us and others.

Why am I writing about this couple and the act here  is that the old elderly couple couldn’t talk. Even when they thanked us, it was just an action. But the action was so genuine that you could see the happiness in their eyes. Especially in the eyes of the husband when he could give the flower to his wife.  Later on we saw them talking to each other in sign language and that is when we knew they couldn’t talk and we realised that they actually hadn’t spoken one single word to us.  We don’t know whether they could hear anything or not. We felt they were here just to ‘see’ and ‘feel’ the show. Thats when we learnt that a feeling of love and happiness needs no words… Its a universal language. Any person, in any part of the world can feel and understand it without any words being spoken.

Its such a wonderful feeling to see an old couple together like this. They must have experienced so many joys and sorrows together. And now the simple act of getting the flower made them so very happy. The way the old man made his wife happy with the flowers is definitely another act of goodness.

Many a times we do so many big things to make others happy. But most of the times, what people need are simple, small actions which make them feel loved and cared. This incident made the old elderly couple happy. This incident also made me and my husband happy. In the end when we were leaving the show they threw balloons from the top…  We again tried to collect few balloons and make somebody else happy…. 🙂

This is what I mean…. Once we do something good and see somebody happy we feel like doing more good and end up feeling happy ourselves.

Voluntary acts of goodness…

It has been some days since I lasted posted anything in here. But today, being Diwali, I wanted to wish you all a very happy Diwali and share with you a small incident I came across a few days back.

I was going to a hospital in a taxi with my husband. As we reached the place and were getting out, a guy came to hire the taxi. At the same time, two ladies from the opposite side were also coming towards this taxi. They didn’t see the guy already waiting for the taxi here but the guy saw them. As soon as the ladies reached the taxi, the guy asked them to take the taxi and he started looking for another one.

As soon as I saw this, I said to my husband that the guy has done such a good act. He didn’t need to do it but he did it on his own. It came so naturally to him. This is when my husband told me that this is a common sight here. People offering taxi to old people, women and children. And then I started looking around and found many such instances where people offered older people and women with children the taxi so that they don’t have to stand and wait. In-fact even before this whole thing came to my notice, I have seen even my husband do this few times. If he is not in a particular hurry, he would let older people or women take the taxi before him.

Wow!! Isn’t this an act of goodness shown by the people in a society?? That is what I have been talking about. One person does a good act, another one does a good act and slowly it becomes a chain of good acts and in this way people start doing such good acts as a normal part of their routine.

I appreciate the good acts done by these people and thank them for showing me another good act, which is done by not just one or two but by so many people around here that now it has become a part of their nature. This again increases my belief in the fact that there is a lot of goodness happening around me.

Goodness of an auto guy…

A couple of months back, I was going to my uncle’s place. He stayed close-by and so I decided to take an auto. When I reached my uncle’s place and got off the auto I noticed that a phone was lying behind where I was sitting. I told the auto guy about it. He immediately took the phone and said somebody may have forgotten to take it.  Luckily the phone was not locked so he could make a call to the number from which there were many missed calls, which were probably made to track the phone. He took the address from the guy and told him that he will deliver the phone to him in half hour. If the auto guy wanted he could have ignored the phone lying in there or he could have waited till the call came back. But he understood the worry the owner will have and decided to call the person immediately.

I was really happy seeing the sense of responsibility the auto guy showed. This needs to be appreciated because he could have easily ignored calling the owner. In India, with so many autos going around, it is not possible to track the auto, in which you traveled last, unless you have the auto number which I doubt the owner, who forgot his phone, will have. So it is easy for the auto guys to not return the phone. Thus, it was definitely an act of goodness on his part to call and inform the owner about the phone.

After few days of this incident, again the same thing happened with my uncle’s phone, where he forgot to take his phone from the auto and the auto guy came back to return it. Wow!! two such incidents in a row made me feel the need to mention the good act here. Even otherwise, I have seen many such incidents of people forgetting their phones and the auto guys taking the effort of returning them. Many years back I have also seen incidents where the phones once lost were lost forever. So this is a welcome change in the mindset of people. This is how people become responsible citizens.

This may sound like a silly incident but still it is an act of goodness which cannot be ignored. And i believe small acts of goodness done encourage people to do further good things.

Respect

Few days back while talking to my friend about my blog and articles, she suggested that apart from what I see and read around me, I should also write about some good actions done by me in my life. I kept thinking whether it is a good idea as it might come across to some people as if I am praising myself. But then I thought…. every good act done by me or by anybody else deserves a praise as it is an encouragement to do more good. So I will mention a small incident which happened two-three days back.

My husband booked for me a spa treatment. Initially I wasn’t very happy about it and kept telling him that I didn’t want to go and that he shouldn’t be spending so much money. He got a bit upset and kept telling me that I should give it a try and that I would feel very good. So then I thought maybe I should actually try it and enjoy the pampering. I went for my appointment and not for once I regretted going there. Every moment in my mind I kept thanking my husband for the pampering I got there. That was such a wonderful act of goodness done by my husband. Wives love the pampering, love and care their husbands give them because it makes them feel wanted. It needn’t be spa but even if its something small, it means a lot for the woman in the relationship. But understanding this and doing things to make one’s wife feel loved is an act of goodness that I think every husband should try to do. And believe me the smile on your wife’s face will be worth the act done by you.

Once the treatment got over, the girl, doing the treatment, told me that I will make you wear your shoes or else your fingers will become dirty. I immediately refused and told her that I will put my shoes myself. She just smiled at me and left the place. Making me wear the shoes wasn’t her part of job but she still offered to do which shows her act of goodness. She didn’t mind making me wear my shoes and took it as a part of her job which not many people will be willing to do. But I couldn’t let her do it because I have a respect for her as a person which wouldn’t allow me to make her do it. If I couldn’t wear my shoes on my own because of some problem, then that would be a different story. But just so that my fingers don’t get dirty, I ask her to do it is something I would never do.

While I was wearing my shoes, I had a good feeling for treating somebody with respect. It made me feel happy. I certainly feel it is an act of goodness which we get to do so many times a day. In a day we come across so many people and so many times, either knowingly or unknowingly, we tend to forget to respect someone or the other. But if we are alert to such small things, then we certainly would have made atleast some people happy. You may think it is silly to think in this way but believe me such small acts give us immense pleasure. We feel as if we have achieved something in our life with just one small act. That smile the girl gave me made my day!!!