Never ignore the advice given by elders…

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Rava ladduūüėä

Two days back, my husband casually asked me how to make rava laddu (Indian sweet). ¬†I told him that ¬†I didn’t know how to make it. Then the next day he¬†told his mom that I have asked her to make rava laddu. I was laughing thinking about the way he was indirectly asking me to make the laddu.¬†So the day after that I thought of making the laddu and¬†giving him a surprise in the evening. I called up mom and asked her the recipe. She told me how to make it and one of the steps she said was to powder¬†the sugar as that will mix easily with the rest of the mixture. She specifically said that don’t use the coarse sugar as it will take some time to melt and mix. So once I had the recipe, I started making the laddu.¬†When I reached the sugar stage, I noticed that the grinder¬†was in washing. I felt lazy to wash it and decided to mix the sugar as it is. As expected, the sugar didn’t melt easily. I kept on mixing it up. It took a lot of time to get the sugar melted and mix well with the mixture. All this while, I kept remembering mom’s words. Once it was finally done, I tasted a bit before making small balls out of it and¬†found that the sugar was less. I was going to leave it as it is but then¬†decided to add more powdered sugar. I cleaned up the grinder, powdered some sugar and added it to the mixture. In the end, however, the laddu turned out to be really tasty. My husband got a big surprise in the evening and he simply loved it.

You must be thinking why I am talking about how I made the¬†rava laddu and that too so much in detail without even giving the recipe here :). Well it is not about the laddu that I want to talk about here. It’s about the lesson I learnt while making the laddu – “Never ignore the advice given by elders”. It’s about the experience of my mom. She knew exactly how to do it. She also knew very well the shortcut that I would take and so she warned me about the consequences before itself. And like every person who doesn’t pay attention to the advice of the elders, I also didn’t pay attention to what she said, as a result, experienced the consequences and in the end learnt that she was right.

It ¬†happens in our lives so many times¬†that for all the doubts and confusions we have, our elders (parents, grandparents…) will already have solutions. They will know exactly what we are talking about and they will come up with the right solutions. But it also happens that we ¬†don’t take these solutions seriously thinking what do the elders know about the present times and what do they know about our problems. ¬†In the end, however, ¬†we do realize, how by listening to their advice, we could have avoided a bad experience in our own lives. They give us these advice¬†as they don’t want us to face the difficulties which they themselves faced in similar situations.

This is a small learning experience for me about how not to ignore the advice given by our elders. But there are so many other experiences, in my life and I am sure in the life of everyone, that gives us the same moral in the end.

 

 

Comfortable living

Hello everyone!!!

Long summer days are here to stay for few months in this part of the world. I have experienced hot summers in India as well but here the main difference is that wherever you go, you find Air Conditioners. Its only when you are coming out of your house or walking on the road that you feel the heat. Otherwise you are in the comfort of ACs everywhere.¬†Once a person gets used to having such a comfortable life, he or she finds it difficult to go back to old ways. In my pre-AC days ¬†I used to always feel why some people are so dependent on AC and why don’t they enjoy the natural weather during the short duration of their visit to their home town. ¬†It’s not like they are born in the midst of all these comforts, then why?

Now I do understand their position. ¬†Once we start using things which make our life and lifestyle easy and comfortable, going back to old methods is tough as now we know how comfortable life can be. It is only when we have experienced good things in life that we know how better life can get. No,¬†I am not saying that I cannot live without AC anymore, I have just taken AC as an example. There are so many other things like mineral water, latest gadgets and kitchen equipments etc. One such other thing is “Facebook” or “Whatsapp” which has made communication so convenient. Communication and networking has increased with their use but meeting each other in person has reduced.

If we look around us, we find so many things that have come into our life and made our life more comfortable. They have improved our standard of living as well.  We should be thankful for all the wonderful creations that have made our living, a better experience. I am really thankful to be able to enjoy all these creations.

But once in a while, we should take the time also to appreciate our much simpler days when these creations did not exist but still we lived a good life, connected more with people around us and appreciated the natural environment and neighbourhood available to us.

I am enjoying all the beautiful and convenient creations coming up these days but I also want to be able enjoy the simpler days when I go back home… The natural weather conditions – be it hot or cold or a rainy day, the neighbourhood where I grew up, the children whose noise refuse to end till the time they go to sleep, the many family conversations, the elaborate food preparations made… The list is endless.

Changes…

Hello everyone!!!

Its been a very long time since I last posted.  Today when I logged into my blog, I was going through all the posts made by people I follow. So many good things to read. I am sure I am going to spend my whole day today reading it all up.

After I wrote my last post, I had some ideas about expanding my blog posts from just writing about acts of goodness to other areas I wish to write about. With this in mind, I tried to make changes in my existing blog but due to my lack of knowledge and impatience I ended up creating a new blog, transferring all the contents to this blog and cancelling the old blog. I am not sure whether this blog is properly visible to people or not because I made some mistake in selecting options while creating this blog as well.

All these confusions were another reason why I was staying away from blogging. Yesterday, while chatting with a friend of mine, she asked me how my blogging was going on. After the conversation was over, I realised I was really missing writing here. So today I decided to give it a try again. I will start posting on this blog again, but if it’s not working out I will create a new blog because there are so many things I want to write about.

So this blog will have a new and expanded format. I want to continue writing about the small acts of goodness done by people around me. I also want to write about other things that influence my life and my thought process…

 

 

In loving memory…

I began this blog a year back to write about the small acts of goodness, done by people around me, which have been an inspiration for me to do something good  as well. Every time I write a post of a good act, I feel positive and happy about it. If just by writing about the good acts done by people I feel so happy then actually doing such good things will definitely make me more happier.

Till today, I wrote about all the good acts done by people around me. Today I want to write about an uncle of mine who was an epitome of goodness. I lost him couple of months back to heart attack. When he is no more with us now, we realise the void he has created. This void is not just for the family, he has created a similar void in the life of every person he ever knew.

Every person who came to meet us during those days just had good things to talk about him. He had affected the life of everyone with either some acts of goodness or with his sweet behaviour or with his loving and caring nature.  He behaved in the same way with every person Рbe it his family, his friends, people working for him or even perfect strangers. He was consistently good with everyone. He was a strength for all the people who ever knew him. A very disciplined person, who had a strong faith in God, he always told us that for any problem in life, just pray to God and you will get the strength to solve it.

When I think about all the good actions done by my uncle, to which I have been a witness, I feel he is the best reference book for goodness for me. He has left behind a great legacy for us, his family and others.  I miss him a lot, but I know he will always be with us, in our hearts.

There is a famous quote, by Ralph Waldo Emerson, which I have always read and admired. It is exactly what happened when my uncle left us all.

“When you were born you were crying and everyone else was smiling. Live your life so at the end, you’re the one who is smiling and everyone else is crying.”

Celebrations full of love and warmth

A couple of days back we had a birthday party to attend. The birthday boy had just turned 50 and so the family decided to give him a surprise party to celebrate the 50 years and to welcome the next 50 years of his life. They invited all the people, connected to him in one way or the other. Likewise, even we were invited.

We reached the venue around the said time and as we stood at the entrance, we noticed that few people had already arrived. As soon as we entered the party hall, the whole family – the birthday boy, his wife and both kids came over and gave us a warm hug. They welcomed us to the party. I had never met them before. But not for once I felt as if I was meeting them for the first time. They gave me a warm hug and welcomed me into the family. It was a very touching gesture for me.

After we both settled down with a glass of juice, my husband got busy talking to few people he knew. I, on the other hand, didn’t know anybody there and so I kept looking around the party hall. I noticed that every time a guest came through the entrance, the whole family went to the door to welcome them with a hug. I could feel the warmth and love they gave each and every guest. I also noticed that all the guests who came to the party were emotionally connected to the family in¬†some way or the other. There were old photos being shown of the birthday boy with his friends, songs being sung, birthday wishes being sent from across the world by friends and family etc. One thing was sure that people loved being in their company. Throughout the party, they made sure to interact with each and every guest and made them feel special.

I very soon realised that the love and warmth they generated and the way they made every person feel special throughout the party is an act of goodness. This kind of affection relieves people from any kind of stress and tension they have. It gives them the courage to face the problems because they know they have people who care about them. We think that love and warmth are simple things but they are very powerful. They make people feel loved and cared and people love being loved and cared.

A party turning out to be a family affair, where everyone is connecting with each other with so much positivity is a very rare sight. So the moment I saw one such party, I decided to write about it here. I loved being a part of such a party.

Magical increase in Platelet Count

Another wonderful article from my friend. This article really moved me… how a guy sought help from Gargi for the healthy recovery of his friend and how Gargi as usual prayed with a pure heart for his recovery. Both of them prayed here for the recovery of a third person, a friend. And their prayers along with the prayers of family worked.
And for me this is an act of goodness. A wonderful act. It is done out of pure love and concern by them. Thank you for writing this experience here. I am sure this will motivate many people to pray for their loved ones’ as well as others’ well-being.

Live your dreams

On 18th January 2016, I received an email from one of my readers seeking help for his friend who was hospitalized and was critical.  Here is an extract from the email:

“Hi Gargi,

My friend has been hospitalized since last Saturday 9th Jan 2016 because of Low Blood Platelet count. He is physically completely normal with no signs or symptoms of any disease. But, his Platelets are not increasing and it has been almost 10 days now. Doctor in the hospital also seems to be clueless. We are going for a second opinion tomorrow, but we are really really worried.
I have been reading your blogs and you have used the Universe powers to heal your near and dear ones.  Would you be able to help me and my friend? Can you try the power of universe to heal my dear Friend. I am looking every possible way to get…

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Being sensitive…

Wishing everybody a very happy new year… ¬†I am sure you all¬†welcomed year 2016 with a¬†great new year party . I had a good time with my family as well…¬†I am sure that this year ¬†I am going to see and experience many small good acts, done by people in the normal course¬†of their lives. I am not saying that any act of goodness is small… what I mean to say is that they are acts which are done, without putting in much efforts, in the normal course of life. But these acts are valuable to people who experience and benefit from these acts.

Few days back while making a 2 hour bus travel I had a chance to experience one such act of goodness done by a fellow passenger. I was a bit unwell during that trip. Somewhere in the middle of the journey, I started coughing. It just wouldn’t stop. It went on continously for few¬†minutes. In the hurry to get into the bus, we ¬†had forgotten to buy a bottle of water that day. ¬†And this being an inter city bus, it wouldn’t stop anywhere. I was trying hard to stop coughing because I knew it was such a nuisance for my fellow passengers. All of a sudden, a lady sitting in front of me offered me a bottle of water. ¬†I thanked her for the same but didn’t take the water as my cough ¬†almost subsided by that time. It was such a good act on her part. If my coughing wouldn’t have stopped, that bottle of water would have been a blessing for me. From that moment I kept thinking about her being so sensitive ¬†to my¬†suffering and offering her help. ¬†This is definitely an act of goodness, the true value of which only a person in need would know… ūüôā

This is one act of goodness which I have seen people most commonly do everywhere. They are always ready with water and food to help people in need Рbe it a bottle of water or a packet of biscuits.  This sort of sharing and caring is one of the best qualities of our human community.

Maintaining relationships…

Another weekend just got over. Few days back we went for a walk in the evening. The weather was good and we were talking casually and enjoying our walk.¬† All of a sudden my husband asked me when one of our family friends was leaving for India. I wasn‚Äôt very sure about the date but I said somewhere around the 9th.¬† He had some other date in mind and so he got confused. When he took out his phone to call them up, I said there is no point in calling them as they must have already left. He still went ahead with the call and guess what‚Ķ. they hadn‚Äôt left.¬† Not only had they not left on the 9th but they also had had some emergencies in their family‚Ķ and all of this in a gap of one month since we last met. They were happy to get his call and talk to him. It made his relationship with them even stronger because they knew he cared about them. And what did it take to make them happy and to strengthen the relationship??? ‚Ķ.an intention to call them up and a phone call which took around 10 mins! ¬†I feel ‚Äėmaking this phone call‚Äô was a simple act of goodness done by him.

I have noticed that my husband has this habit of keeping in touch with most of the people he knows. He may call them for few minutes and talk, but I think this is enough to build good relationships. He keeps in touch with them on a regular basis. And when does he do all this??? When walking down the road to some shop, while waiting for a meeting, while waiting for the food to arrive at a restaurant… So he doesn’t need to make an effort to create time to call people. He makes use of the time he spends waiting.

By keeping in touch with people, we are nurturing our relationship with them. Being in touch, sharing joys and sorrows and building emotional bonds will pave way to build healthier relationships among people thereby creating a very friendly society. Taking the effort to keep in touch with people is definitely an act of goodness which creates good, healthy relationships.

Giving flowers

A couple of months back, during our trip to Thailand, we went for a dance show which showed the cultural heritage of Thailand.   After walking around the whole area, we were going to our seat for the show. Our seats were third and fourth in a row. In the first and second seat sat an old English couple. Just as we were sitting down they gave us a smile and continued looking at the stage.

The dance show started. ¬†It was a beautiful show filled with love, dance, music and colors. ¬†They were enacting a love story of a Prince. ¬†During the show they threw flowers from top on all the guests. Going with the flow of the atmosphere, we also stood up to catch the flowers. ¬†Both of us got one each extra which we gave to the old man sitting next to us. He gave one to his wife and took one for him. ¬†He was so happy to get the flowers from us that he kept thanking us. We could see him smiling from ear to ear. ¬†Later his wife also thanked us by putting her hand to her chest… ¬†We felt really happy seeing their happiness more than getting the flowers ourselves. Making somebody happy is definitely an act of goodness which leaves you with a happy feeling as well. We didn’t give the flowers to them with the purpose of making them happy nor we knew this small act would make them so happy. ¬†All this happened unintentionally but it made everyone happy. ¬†This made me think about the number of times we, unintentionally, do good acts and never notice the feeling of happiness it gives us¬†and others.

Why am I writing¬†about this couple and the act here ¬†is that the old elderly couple couldn’t talk. Even when they thanked us, it was just an action. But the action was so genuine that you could see the happiness in their eyes. Especially in the eyes of the husband when he could give the flower to his wife. ¬†Later on we saw them talking to each other in sign language and that is when we knew they couldn’t talk and we realised that they actually hadn’t spoken one single word to us. ¬†We don’t know whether they could hear anything or not. We felt they were here just to ‘see’ and ‘feel’ the show. Thats when we learnt that a feeling of love and happiness needs no words… Its a universal language. Any person, in any part of the world can feel and understand it without any words being spoken.

Its such a wonderful feeling to see an old couple together like this. They must have experienced so many joys and sorrows together. And now the simple act of getting the flower made them so very happy. The way the old man made his wife happy with the flowers is definitely another act of goodness.

Many a times we do so many big things to make others happy. But most of the times, what people need are simple, small actions which make them feel loved and cared. This incident made the old elderly couple happy. This incident also made me and my husband happy. In the end when we were leaving the show they threw balloons from the top… ¬†We again tried to collect few balloons and make somebody else happy…. ūüôā

This is what I mean…. Once we do something good and see somebody happy we feel like doing more good and end up feeling happy ourselves.

Voluntary acts of goodness…

It has been some days since I lasted posted anything in here. But today, being Diwali, I wanted to wish you all a very happy Diwali and share with you a small incident I came across a few days back.

I was going to a hospital¬†in a taxi with my husband. As we reached the place and were getting out, a guy came to hire the taxi. At the same time, two ladies from the opposite side were also coming towards this taxi. They didn’t see the guy already waiting for the taxi here but the guy saw them.¬†As soon as the ladies reached the taxi, the guy asked them to take the taxi and he started looking for another one.

As soon as I saw this, I said to my husband that the guy has done such a good act. He didn’t need to do it but he did it on his own. It came so naturally to him. This is when my husband told me that this is a common sight here. People offering taxi to old people, women and children. And then I started looking around and found many such instances where people offered older people and women with children the taxi so that they don’t have to stand and wait. In-fact even before this whole thing came to my notice, I have seen even my husband do this few times. If he is not in a particular hurry, he would let older people or women take the taxi before him.

Wow!! Isn’t this an act of goodness shown by the people in a society?? That is what I have been talking about. One person does a good act, another one does a good act and slowly it becomes a chain of good acts and in this way¬†people start doing such good acts as a normal part of their routine.

I appreciate the good acts done by these people and thank them for showing me another good act, which is done by not just one or two but by so many people around here that now it has become a part of their nature. This again increases my belief in the fact that there is a lot of goodness happening around me.